Like many, I feel bad, ashamed about cry­ing and most of the time we’re unable to do it. We push back those tears. Remem­ber when you were a kid and you would have a cry, a really good cry where you could not breathe very well. Now remem­ber after how good we felt after, like the whole world was fresh and new with a whole lot less weight.

Its OK to Cry

We need to shed those tears; we need to let them out. There is much sad­ness in our world just as there is much bliss. Judg­ing it, crit­i­cizes the world for how it should be, hold­ing us back from mov­ing for­ward in our per­sonal life. Judg­ment of how it should be, instead of allow­ing the tears of anger, sad­ness, shame, and show­ing our fear only blocks us back from our feel­ings. There will always be stuff in our life that part of us wishes were dif­fer­ent; this is the part that is not liv­ing in the now. When we live in the now we allow our­selves to feel. In this we become accept­ing of what is rather than what should be. We cry when we need to. In under­stand­ing that we need to cry, in order for our per­sonal growth we need to under­stand our tears.

There are dif­fer­ent kinds of tears, for dif­fer­ent sit­u­a­tions, all of which come from dif­fer­ent parts of our body show­ing up in dif­fer­ent ways.

Anger Tears: Our ego is in the way here, we are in a vul­ner­a­ble, exposed, pow­er­less place that we do not want oth­ers to know. We are feel­ing inad­e­quate, our body stiff­ens. Not know­ing how to express our­selves not feel­ing that tears are accept­able or polite we try to hold them back until they squeeze out the out side cor­ner of our eyes, mak­ing it easy to push away.

Sad Tears: When we are mov­ing for­ward in a new direc­tion, leav­ing cer­tain things, per­sons, usu­ally advanc­ing to a new level we have sad­ness in our hearts. With our shoul­ders down, the salty tears come up from our hearts to the inside cor­ner of our eyes. They spill down our cheeks over our lips where we taste them, and are reminded with the bit­ter­ness of the bit­ter­ness of life.

Fright­ened Tears: When we are fright­ened we cre­ate tears that come from the bot­tom of our feet. Our whole sole is trem­bling or shak­ing and the tears engulf the whole well of our eye, cloud­ing our vision. They spill over our whole face, mak­ing us feel more vulnerable.

Shame Tears: These come from the pit of our stom­ach when we are to much in our heads, judg­ing crit­i­ciz­ing our­selves and oth­ers. The word Should has a big part of shame as the word it self is a guilt trip on our self’s and oth­ers. With our shoul­ders drop­ping we are stuck in the anguish of the past.

Combo Tears: The worst tears of all, stiff­ness of anger, drop­ping of sad­ness, trem­bling of fear, and the bend­ing of shame. Trem­bling, cold and nau­se­ated, feel­ing unwor­thy and afraid, we get mad at our­selves for feel­ing this way.

Tears are our friends, we need them. We need them for our­selves and to see them in oth­ers. As we are all learn­ing to under­stand our feel­ings tears show us where we stand today.

We all have tears inside us. We hold our fam­i­lies pain, our friends pain, the plan­ets pain. With so much pain from the out­side and our own we have denied our tears. It takes strength to cry, shed a tear. Find­ing it eas­ier to cry for some­one else than for your self. Tears get us through the dark­est time, bring­ing us to a new under­stand­ing of our self. A new light, where we can show oth­ers who are blocked in their tears. These unshed tears cloud us, dis­color our thoughts, mak­ing us unable to take real steps for­ward so we repeat the blocked process over and over.

Telling our sto­ries, while let­ting out the full range of tears heals us, as well as the ones we have shared with. After the tears we, are able to see the blocks in a bet­ter light with a new under­stand­ing, mak­ing it eas­ier to pick up and move for­ward again.

Its ok to cry. Go ahead the planet needs you to.

Hugs all around, Sheri

[Editor’s note: Sheri’s writ­ings are spread out over time so they’re not strictly a follow-on from the pre­vi­ous writ­ing. I’m sure you will find them most inter­est­ing and, hope­fully, find her expe­ri­ences and pos­i­tive mes­sages help­ful. Below are links to Sheri’s per­sonal jour­ney expe­ri­ence writ­ings and thoughts. You can also access these links from the side menu, or the “About Me” menu on the top-right of the page. ]

• About Me — My “Pull Through” Jour­ney — Introductions
• Con­trol­ling Crohn’s Dis­ease? Anorexia worked! Until it didn’t.
• Accept­ing the Hos­pi­tal ~ No other choice left.
• Trans­fer­ring Closer to Home
• Yes­ter­day I Cried ~ With an agenda.
• [Cur­rent Page] It’s OK to Cry
• My Pre­scrip­tion Drug Addic­tion — Good or Bad?
• Leav­ing the Poor Me Stage
• My Jour­ney of Pulling Through — Final Thoughts