Poor Me Stage

This is usu­ally one of the first stages of dis­ease. For me this was most of my teen years. Being in pain all the time, hav­ing to limit my social activ­i­ties, I was the vic­tim. In the poor me stage we feel like no one under­stands what we are going through. It is hard to have com­pas­sion for oth­ers as we are in pain and only see the world from our per­spec­tive. When one is going through the poor me stage it is hard to con­nect with others.

This is just a stage! Every event in our life changes the next moment for ever, you can not know this effect you just have to trust that it is for the bet­ter of everyone.

Your life has great plans for you; this may be the gift that trans­forms your per­spec­tive on the world. Your job is to take what life gives you and turn it into some­thing great.

There is no need for blame of your self or any one else. These destruc­tive thoughts only add stress on our bod­ies and dis­ease, cre­at­ing a spi­ral down. We all have chal­lenges in life, every­one does. Some have health chal­lenges oth­ers have rela­tion­ship, or career or finan­cial challenges.

First we need to accept this stage and see it for what it is. We can not deny our feel­ings but look at our selves clearly. Real­ize that we may be bit­ter about our past; be bit­ter towards oth­ers which just mir­ror back to us.

Today is a new day. You decide how to look at it, let it go and jump for­ward. Find some one online who needs some sup­port and make your self find the words to encour­age them. You may think it is the time for you to get the sup­port, but first give it to some­one else, then go find some­one to share sup­port back to you.

Now that I have come out the other side of this stage, I am grate­ful for what I have gone through. Until we have gone through our own expe­ri­ence, we are unable to under­stand enough to help another through theirs.

Sheri