Life with a Ostomy

Poor Me Stage

This is usually one of the first stages of disease.  For me this was most of my teen years. Being in pain all the time, having to limit my social activities, I was the victim. In the poor me stage we feel like no one understands what we are going through. It is hard to have compassion for others as we are in pain and only see the world from our perspective. When one is going through the poor me stage it is hard to connect with others.

This is just a stage! Every event in our life changes the next moment for ever, you can not know this effect you just have to trust that it is for the better of everyone.

 Your life has great plans for you; this may be the gift that transforms your perspective on the world. Your job is to take what life gives you and turn it into something great.

There is no need for blame of your self or any one else.  These destructive thoughts only add stress on our bodies and disease, creating a spiral down.  We all have challenges in life, everyone does. Some have health challenges others have relationship, or career or financial challenges.

First we need to accept this stage and see it for what it is. We can not deny our feelings but look at our selves clearly. Realize that we may be bitter about our past; be bitter towards others which just mirror back to us.

Today is a new day. You decide how to look at it, let it go and jump forward. Find some one online who needs some support and make your self find the words to encourage them. You may think it is the time for you to get the support, but first give it to someone else, then go find someone to share support back to you.

Now that I have come out the other side of this stage, I am grateful for what I have gone through. Until we have gone through our own experience, we are unable to understand enough to help another through theirs.

Sheri