Life with a Ostomy

Yesterday I Cried

I have been going through a lot of emotions lately, like my mind has a new person living in there. With all the changes in life, looking forward into the unknown, some times it’s all a little much.

When we think that we are alone; it’s hard to reach out.  Pushing forward today I was out reaching out with some friends and I came across this book, Yesterday I Cried.  It seemed so fitting for me this day.  I picked it up, brought it home, perched my self in the warm afternoon sun and started to read it.  It started with a poem; I felt it so fitting for many of us that I wanted to share it, so here it is.

Hugs all around.  Sheri

Yesterday I Cried by Iyanla Vanzant

I came home, went straight to my room,
sat on the edge of my bed,
kicked off my shoes,
unhooked my bra,
and I had myself a good cry.

I’m telling you,
I cried until my nose was running all over
the silk blouse I got on sale.
I cried until my ears were hot.
I cried until my head was hurting so bad
that I could hardly see the pile of
soiled tissues lying on the floor at my feet.

I want you to understand,
I had myself a really good cry yesterday.

Yesterday, I cried,
for all the days that I was too busy,
or too tired,
or too mad to cry.

I cried for all the days, and all the ways,
and all the times I had dishonored,
disrespected, and
disconnected my Self from myself,
only to have it reflected back to me
in the ways others did to me
the same things I had already done to myself.

I cried for all the things I had given,
only to have them stolen;
for all the things I had asked for that
had yet to show up;
for all the things I had accomplished,
only to give them away,
to people in circumstances,
which left me feeling empty,
and battered and plain old used.

I cried because there really does
come a time when the only thing left
for you to do is cry. Yesterday, I cried.
I cried because little boys get
left by their daddies;
and little girls get forgotten by their mommies;
and daddies don’t know what to do, so they leave;
and mommies get left, so they get mad.

Yesterday, I cried.
I cried because I hurt.
I cried because I was hurt.
I cried because hurt has no place to go
except deeper into the pain that
caused it in the first place,
and when it gets there,
the hurt wakes you up.

I cried because it was too late.
I cried because it was time.

I cried because my soul knew that I didn’t know
that my soul knew everything I needed to know.

I cried a soulful cry yesterday,
and it felt so good.

It felt so very, very bad.

In the midst of my crying,
I felt my freedom coming,
Because Yesterday,
I cried with an agenda On the day of the operation, you will be fitted with an intravenous line (IV) to allow administration of fluids, anesthetic, and medications. You will also receive a catheter to drain urine. Both will remain in place for several days. The operation itself usually takes two to four hours. The surgeon will make an incision in the abdomen, examine the intestines, remove the diseased or injured area as needed, and construct the stoma.

Post-surgery, you will need to keep a close watch for complications. Colostomy complications, ileostomy complications, and urostomy complications share many of the same signs. If you observe any of the following, contact your physician immediately: bulging skin around the stoma, severe cramps, unusual odor, continuous or excessive bleeding between the stoma and the skin, severe injury to the stoma, unusual changes in the stoma’s size or color.

Possible Colostomy Complications